Editor's Note: Today I am wearing a Banana Republic wolf skirt, Ann Taylor blouse, Anthropologie sweater, and J. Crew kitten heels
Today I was inspired based on a story that my mother recently found and showed me. The story is about how a wife tells her husband that he needs to take another woman out to dinner and a movie. The other woman is his widowed mother. The mother is hesitant at first as a surprise usually is a sign of bad news in her mind, but she eventually agrees. The end up having a lovely evening talking and end up missing the movie. As the son is dropping her off, he asked her if they can do this again soon and she agrees that she would be the one to ask him out next time. A few days later his mother passes away from a heart attack. Sometime later, he receives an envelope with a copy of the bill from the restaurant and attached is a note that his mother had written stating that she paid for two plates in advance as she wasn't sure if she would make it or not. She wrote at the bottom of the bill, "I love you son." The son realizes in that moment the importance of saying I love you and to make sure that you give loved ones the time they deserve. (Note: Read the full story below)
I started thinking about my mother and our relationship after reading this story. My mother and I are very close and have kept up certain traditions through the years. One of our weekly traditions that we started back in 1990 was eating lunch every Friday together. Throughout the years we went to different restaurants but starting in 2005, we eat Friday lunch at Michael's. It's always something I look forward to at the end of a busy week!
When I moved to New York in 1982, I started calling my mother each morning 10 minutes before 8:00 am. The reason I called 10 minutes before 8:00 am as some of you know that was still considered a "night time" phone call, so the minutes on the phone were cheaper. To this day, I still call her every morning at the same time to start my morning off. Based on the story, I learned to cherish the relationship you have with your mother. You never know what life will bring you each day! Love you mom!
Every summer mother and I go to New York City for a week!
Here is Riley, Mother, and I at dinner in New York last summer!
I love this black and white photo of mother and I
Last night for dinner I had green bean bundles wrapped with bacon and chicken breast.
I can't wait for the last season of American Idol. Love this song by Candice Glover!
Being A Mother Story
After 21 years of marriage, my wife wanted me to take another woman out to dinner and a movie. She said 'I love you, but I know this other woman loves you and would love to spend some time with you.' The other woman that my wife wanted me to visit was my Mother; who has been a widow for 19 years, but the demands of my work and my three children had made it possible to visit her only occasionally. That night I called to invite her to go out to dinner and a movie. What's wrong, are you well, 'she asked? My mother is the type of woman who suspects that a late night call or a surprise invitation is a sign of bad news. 'I thought that it would be pleasant to spend some time with you,' I responded 'just the two of us.' She thought about it for a moment, and then she said, 'I would like that very much.' That Friday after work, as I drove over to pick her up I was bit nervous. When I arrived at her house, I noticed that she, too, seemed to be nervous about our date. She waited in the door with her coat on. She had curled her hair and was wearing the dress that she had worn to celebrate her last wedding anniversary. She smiled from a face that was radiant as an angel's. 'I told my friends that I was going to go out my son, and they were impressed,' she said, as she got into the car. 'They can't wait to hear about our meeting.' We went to a restaurant that, although not elegant, was very nice and cozy. My mother took my arm as if she were the First Lady. After we sat down, I had to read the menu. Her eyes could only ready large print. Half-way through the entrees, I lifted my eyes and saw Mother sitting there staring at me. A nostalgic smile was on her lips. 'It was I who used to have to read the menu when you were small,' she said. 'Then it's time that you relax and let me return the favor,' I responded. During the dinner, we had an agreeable conversation nothing extraordinary but catching up on recent events of each other's life. We talked so much that we missed the movie. As we arrived at her house later, she said, "I'll go out with you again, but only if you let me invite you.' I agreed. 'How was your dinner date?' asked my wife when I got home. 'Very nice, much more so than I could have imagined,' I answered. A few dates later, my mother died of a massive heart attack. It happened so suddenly that I didn't have a chance to do anything for her. Sometime later, I received an envelope with a copy of a restaurant receipt from the same place Mother and I had dined. An attached note said: 'I paid this bill in advance. I wasn't sure that I could be there; but, nevertheless, I paid for two plates-one for you and the other for your wife. You will never know what that night meant for me. 'I love you, son.' At that moment, I understood the importance of saying in time: 'I love YOU' and to give our loved ones the time they deserve. Nothing in life is more important than your family. Give them the time they deserve, because things cannot be put off till some 'other' time. Somebody said the hardest part of being a mother is labor and delivery.. somebody never watched her 'baby' get on the bus for the first day of kindergarten...or on a plane headed for military 'boot camp.' Somebody said a Mother can stop worrying after her child gets married... somebody doesn't know that marriage adds a new son or daughter-in-law to a mother's heartstrings. Somebody said your mother knows you love her, so you don't need to tell her... somebody isn't a mother. Pass this along to all the GREAT 'mothers' in your life and to everyone who ever had a mother. This isn't just about being a mother, it's about appreciating the people in your lives while you have them... no matter who that person is!
Watch your thoughts, they become words.
Watch your words, they become actions.
Watch your actions, they become habits.
Watch your habits, they become character.
Watch your character, for it becomes... your destiny.
'Be kinder than necessary, for everyone you meet is fighting some kind of battle.'